What is up with Facebook?

The new thing happening on Facebook is their pushing their "automatic Friend Finder." And honestly, I find that their method is overly aggressive and borders on offensive.
I know that a lot of services have a feature where an address book, instant messaging roster and other services' roster and search for people who are also using the service in question, but please don't lie to people saying I found most of my friends this way. And yet, Natalie gets a banner stating that I used the service they're pushing (to mind my non-Facebook contact data) to find "many of my friends." Me? ORLY? I don't think so.
As I've said before, I do not normally add people, even people I think I know well enough to add, until I get a request from the person. It's really the only way I won't feel guilty about the amount of quality of the noise I sometimes tend to post.
There are a number of things about Facebook that have been bothering me. Where to begin? The privacy concerns? The over sharing? The overly agressive applications? The walled garden? The Ads? The context-less color/length/food postings for causes it takes three days to figure out? The multiple competing groups for members who worship chocolate-covered bellybutton lint?
I will admit, Facebook has provided me with a method of keeping in touch with people that they might actually use (there are some family members I don't even have IM addresses for and if I can get them to check their e-mail . . . ). But the model does need to tweaking.
I have started to wonder if it's even worth going back to Facebook's site unless I need or want to respond to a message someone has left that I can't do any other way. And then I see on LifeHacker that Facebook is now allowing e-mail replies to some content types.
Maybe I don't have to go to Facebook anymore. Between TweetDeck, Seesmic and, now, e-mail . . . why do I have to go to Facebook at all?
I've written a lot this year already about social networks and Facebook. This isn't what I really want to be writing about. So, I am going to try to find something else to spend my time. Mostly, I don't think anyone that might actually read this is going to think anything other than "well, if you don't like it, then don't use it." And maybe that is the right approach here.